Being Whole as a Single

Date: 27th December, 2025
Message: Being Whole as a Single

Minister: Pastor Laide Olaniyan

One of the greatest burdens of the spirit is not centered on being married as a single, but rather to be whole and holy unto the Lord. The assault of Satan upon our generation is meant to wreck a man from the days of his youth; when he is single.

The strength and how far life turns out to be is primarily dependent on what we use our singlehood to go and what we make of it in the Lord. Singles in-gathering is to gather us back inside, and also put us back within the quiver ordained by God for us to be in, because singlehood is a season of life ordained by God for a man to be furnished and purified within a quiver, that is when such a person can be mighty in hands of the mighty man (Ps 127: 4-5).

It’s unfortunate that a lot of people have been damaged, scattered and dismembered in the season of their singlehood. To be dismembered in this context isn’t just bodily. As much as some people can vouch that they are chaste and are virgins, which is a good thing, but there are many things that spoil us even without getting touched.

(Col. 2:8) — “Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.”

(Isaiah 42:22) — “But this is a people robbed and spoiled; they are all of them snared in holes, and they are hid in prison houses: they are for a prey, and none delivereth; for a spoil, and none saith, Restore.”

To spoil you is to cause damage in the essence of life. There are things Satan uses to damage or rob a soul without touching it. The purpose of singles in-gathering is to ensure that there is a gathering-back of souls. As singles, if you are not put together, even marriage can’t mend you.

Many broken people go into marriage thinking that wholeness or completeness lies there, but end up frustrating themselves and their spouses. The remedy to the damage is not found in the other person, but must first be found in yourself, i.e. you must first be put together as an individual.

You can’t be holy if you are not made whole. The mandate upon the life of a single person is to find wholeness.

(2Cor. 7:1) — “Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.”

(1Cor. 7:28 – 34) The mandate of singlehood is holiness; the definition of holiness is purity, being cleansed from things that defy both in the body and in the spirit. It is being whole, removing the things that defile and scatter a man. The mandate for singles is not to find your missing rib, rather, it is to find wholeness, and wholeness is in the gospel; in doctrine.

There are many philosophies that scatter us as singles. Philosophies are ideologies of men, definitions of life and our outlook on life (Col. 2:8). For some of us, our outlook on life is what is actually spoiling us. This outlook on life is a design or construct of Satan to make sure that we are never whole.

Satan has done so much evil to men and has given different impressions that men have built their lives on overtime, whether it’s an impression concerning life, work, marriage, material substances. Satan has given many definitions; impressions as to using this world, making a name or fame.

All of these things are subtle ideologies that are pushed into our world and get to us subconsciously, hacking us down and ensuring that we are never whole. These subtle ideologies are pushed into our world and they make sure we are not whole. Many go into marriage thinking they will be made whole. Completeness and wholeness should be our priority; finding out what God wants us to be in Him. When we do this, every other thing gets sorted out.

There is the notion framed by ideology that has made us irresponsible also. We might have grown in age but we might not have grown out of childhood. Avoidance of responsibility is what makes us so. There is a difference between parenting and coaching. A coach knows how to train a child repeatedly for the mastery of a skill. Training helps us gain proficiency in the skill of a thing through practical experience.

Our home should not be the place where we experience the first training. We should have been led through before getting married. The men should be trained on how to lead a home. Ladies should be trained in home making because the atmosphere of the wife determines the atmosphere of the home.

At a certain age, some things should have been done in us that makes us ready to face life and enter into the will of God. The goal of singlehood is to make us whole and holy. The least requirement of God for us to enter into marriage is to be Christ. If not, we will have troubles. The doctrine of Christ makes us godly so we are able to run life. That exercise makes us a man/woman indeed and it gathers us together in our soul.

If we don’t know what wholeness looks like, everything becomes a model to us. God wants to gather us together into what a single person should be like. A single person is a complete man. God expects us to be complete in Him (Col 2:10). If we are not complete in Christ, nobody can complete us.

One of the greatest burdens of the Lord for singles is not just to marry but to be made whole and holy unto the Lord while single. The assault of Satan upon man is to wreck him from the days of his youth. How far we will go is shown by what we use our singlehood to do and what we make of it in the Lord.

Singlehood is a season where God ordained for us to be purified and be made a quiver in the hand of the mighty man, but sadly a lot of people have been damaged and have been made scattered in their youth. God wants to gather us back within (in our soul); He wants to restore us.

The mandate on the life of a single person is to find wholeness (2 Cor 7:1, 1Cor 7:28-34). Wholeness is the gospel/doctrine (Col 2:8). There are many philosophies that scatter us as singles and many of these things that are destroying us are constructs of Satan. These subtle ideologies are pushed into our world and they make sure we are not whole. Many go into marriage thinking they will be made whole.

Completeness and wholeness should be our priority; finding out what God wants us to be in Him. When we do this, every other thing gets sorted out. There is the notion framed by ideology that has made us irresponsible also. We can have grown in age but we might not have grown out of childhood. Avoidance of responsibility is what makes us so.

There is a difference between parenting and coaching. A coach knows how to train a child repeatedly for the mastery of a skill. Training helps us gain proficiency in the skill of a thing through practical experience.

Our home should not be the place where we experience the first training. We should have been led through before getting married. The men should be trained on how to lead a home. Ladies should be training in home making because the atmosphere of the wife determines the atmosphere of the home. At a certain age, some things should have been done in us that makes us ready to face life and enter into the will of God.

The goal of singlehood is to make us whole and holy. The least requirement of God for us to enter into marriage is to be Christ. If not, we will have troubles. The doctrine of Christ makes us godly so we are able to run life. That exercise makes us a man/woman indeed and it gathers us together in our soul.